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Dr. Keely Kolmes
Psychologist. Consultant. Speaker.

Are you ready to commit to healthier relationships?

Are you ready to commit to healthier relationships?


How can I help you?


Hello, and welcome to me and my practice. I therapy for adult individuals and I also provide couples/relationship therapy.

Please note that at this time, all of my psychotherapy services are being offered via HIPAA-compliant video. I can only see people who reside within the state of California, since this is the only state in which I’m licensed to practice. You will also have to physically be in California during the delivery of services although some temporary sessions are permitted if you and I are out of state due to COVID waivers. But you must be a CA resident only temporarily in another state. This cannot be a permanent interstate delivery of care. These temporary permissions may change in 2022.

If you are interested in working with me, please email me, and we can set up a time for a brief zoom video call for you to ask me any questions you may have and for me to make sure you are a good candidate for teletherapy at this time.

Initial Session

I understand that coming to therapy for the first time can be challenging. I also know that spending a lot of money to see if you’re the right fit with a therapist can create significant barriers to even starting the process. With this in mind, the rate for the first 45 minute intake for all individuals exploring psychotherapy with me is $125. Couples and relationship counseling clients have their initial 75 minute session at a rate of $212.

I am a licensed psychologist with a telehealth practice throughout the state of CA. I have over 26 years of experience providing psychotherapy. I teach, write, consult, and do research on sexual diversity and clinical and ethical issues related to psychotherapy and the Internet.

How I can help:

Here are some of the issues I work on with people in my practice:

  • Anxiety, stress, and panic;
  • Body image, food, and eating issues, from a size acceptance perspective;
  • Career transitions, cultivating creativity, and issues related to being an entrepreneur;
  • Coming out as kinky or polyamorous;
  • Creating sound agreements for consensual non-monogamy;
  • Depression;
  • Gender identity issues;
  • Grief and loss;
  • Healing difficult family relationships (mom, dad, and sibling issues);
  • Consultation with parents responding to a teen or young adult who is coming out about sexual or gender identity;
  • Insomnia and sleep issues, including APAP and CPAP compliance, chronic pain, and nightmares;
  • Internet, technology and social media issues, including managing the pressure of online celebrity;
  • Personal growth;
  • Post-Burning Man processing;
  • Procrastination and avoidance;
  • Relationships, dating, and sexual concerns

I do not provide psychedelic-assisted therapy or work with plant medicine, and I also cannot make referrals for practitioners who work with illegal substances. That said, many of my clients have sought out these experiences on their own and have discussed these experiences with me. I support your autonomy in seeking growth and expansion in multiple ways. While I have not taken coursework on psychedelic integration, I do consult with colleagues on how to do this. My practice is a safe space to make meaning of and talk about these experiences.

New Psychotherapy Clients

Please email me so we can schedule a first session together. Or start with the pages under my Psychotherapy menu where you’ll find my services, fees, and policies. I welcome and work with people of all genders and orientations. This includes heterosexual, monogamous, and “vanilla” people, as well as LGBTQQIA people; altsex, polyamorous, BDSM and kink-identified people; as well as welcoming sex workers and their partners.


Take a look at my Speaking and Consulting menus or check out my shop.

If you are experiencing a life threatening emergency, you should call 911 or go to your nearest Emergency Room. For other crisis info, see my crisis resources.